In a tough job scenario, identify the factors you can change
I'm having trouble with my boss.
He doesn't tell me the truth, doesn't follow through on promises, and has favourites. But others think he's great -a real straightshooter you can count on. There may be legal aspects to your situation, but I'll focus instead on ways to take ownership of your future so you can move forward.
You have a number of factors to figure out, but to do so, you'll need to be in the proper frame of mind: a forward-looking, purposeful focus. There are undoubtedly aspects of your situation that you have no control over. Don't dwell on them. Then determine what you want. You mention that your career is stagnating; what are your goals? If these aren't clear, you won't be able to overcome any barriers that he may be presenting.
Finally, see yourself as others see you. Pick five people in different roles, and imagine what their impressions of you might be -the actual responses they may have. Ask others for direct feedback. Make sure you're taking responsibility for any limiting behaviours you may have.
In particular, do your share at work despite your personal obligations. If you haven't made a clear career plan, do it now.
In particular, do your share at work despite your personal obligations. If you haven't made a clear career plan, do it now.
Articulate where you'd like to be in your next role and in five years. Understand what you enjoy the most in work and what you're better off avoiding. Note what new skills you'll need to get there.
Then let people know. Engage your company's human resources department in your learning and development, and talk to management people, including asking for informational interviews in areas that interest you. Find a mentor in the company who can help guide you through this stage of your career. When you see opportunities that interest you, don't sit on the fence -take action.
You probably noticed that I haven't talked about your boss.
He may well be in the category of “factors you don't control“.
He may well be in the category of “factors you don't control“.
Unless you want a quick trip to the job market, you may have to put up with some of his behaviour. That said, if you can identify ways that can move the relationship in the right direction, by all means, give it a try.
Consider asking for specific types of support or engaging on neutral subjects to try to connect.
If this is a pervasive pattern in your company, then you may want to consider escalating it, either to higher-level management or to HR. This, however, is risky, so if you pursue it, you'll probably want to get legal advice first and build solid documentation of lies or biased behaviour.
Focus on your vision for yourself to move towards a more satisfactory workplace situation.
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